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Welcome to oakwoodcounselling.com

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About Me

Counselling

Hi, my name is Vince and I am an experienced counsellor / psychotherapist and performance coach who has worked for Mind, Anxiety UK, and the North London Hospice. I have an advanced diploma in humanistic integrative counselling, a qualification that is accredited by the BACP and a BSc degree in psychology. I am also a IANLP accredited Cognitive Behavioural (CBT) Coach.

I have been mentoring and coaching for over 20 years and am qualified as a humanistic integrative counsellor which means I can match individual client’s needs to a variety of established and effective therapeutic approaches. I also have a blog and advice presence on the Internet with over 1500 positive testimonials.

Performance and Executive Coaching

My performance coachings skills are based on my experience of working for the British Quality Foundation as an Awards Assessor for five years and as an Awards Assessor Team Leader for London Excellence for six years, which involved site visits and assessments of FTSE companies applying for quality improvement awards. Ive also helped numerous students successfully navigate essays, dissertations and exam preparation, using mind maps and Mmenoics techniques.

Location and Contact Details

I am based at BH23 4UP which is between about 1 mile equidistant from Christchurch and Highcliffe and 10 miles (20 mins drive) from Talbot Campus, Bournemouth Uni.

Free detailed initial 30 minute consultation by telephone, if needed.

Free off street parking in BH23 4UP, or if walking, within 10 minutes of Hoburne Park Bus Stop, Hoburne Lane (X1 Bus).

Mobile: 07881 803 727 or from abroad UK (44) 7881 803 727

email: oakwoodcounselling@outlook.com

SKYPE vince.oakwood

Qualifications

Diploma in Systems Practice, 1998; Diploma in Performance Coaching 2001; British Quality Awards Trainer 2001; BSc Hons, (Psychology) 2004; Diploma in Life Coaching 2005; Certificate in Humanistic Integrative Counselling 2013; Diploma in Humanistic Integrative Counselling 2014; Advanced Diploma in Humanistic Integrative Counselling 2015.

Anxiety UK approved therapist

Bereavement counselling training and working as a voluntary counsellor for North London Hospice 2013 - 2016

Training and working as a voluntary counsellor for Mind in Haringey 2014 - 2017

Why Counselling?

Many of us have experienced times when life can feel complex, we may feel isolated, challenged or even completely overwhelmed. We may find ourselves looking for additional non-judgemental, experienced and professional support outside our friends and family, in a caring, comfortable, and calm environment.

It can be very helpful to have difficulties explored in confidence, to be listened to and properly heard in order to make sense of things, so that choices can become clearer and our lives more fulfilling.

How I Work

I work at a pace and on a focus you decide. I will help you to achieve a better understanding of your identity, who you really are (although that changes slightly all the time) your feelings, needs and how best you might formulate, meet or heighten your existing goals or even change direction.

I have what is known as an integrative approach to counselling, which means potentially using a mix of the most respected, widely practised and effective therapeutic approaches such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) Psychodynamic, and the highly structured and effective Schema Therapy. I'll tailor and utilize what works best for you personally, as we are all different.

As well as talking about your issues you'll also get an insight into how you are experienced within the therapeutic relationship through honest and sensitive feedback.

Whilst the therapeutic relationship is unlike any other, it is a reflection of other relationships you have and so provides the opportunity to explore some of the dynamics that get played out in your other relationships. To this end it can be a powerful self-development tool.

What to expect?

Sessions usually run once a week for 50 minutes, or as agreed between us. Initially I meet clients for an assessment and if we both agree to work together then I offer a further five sessions.

After the initial six sessions, we'll discuss and review our work together and decide if we wish to continue onto open ended, long-term work. Everything is done in a safe, welcoming environment and at your pace.

Therapy is not something that is done to you so to speak; it is more like something you have. It is about exploring alternatives, different perceptions, questioning patterns of thinking and behaving and finding new ways of seeing things. Fundementally its a learning experience.

On this point, one less common element to counselling I use, is psychoeducation. This means as we progress I explain to you openly what I am doing, the techniques, the key concepts and language used. So you begin to learn how to 'do' therapy yourself. The point of my approach is the more you understand about it, the more effective we will be as a team, and when the therapy is finished, you will yourself have a greater understanding and insight of how best to take care of yourself in future, and maybe even the others around you. In fact I have had many clients who have become so interested in psychotherapy, they have expressed a desire to study and become qualified themselves, which I encourage completely.

I believe very much in the saying, if you "give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime."

I will put details of some key psychotherapeutic concepts in the resource section below.

Examples Areas of Counselling I Work With

This is not an exhaustive list.

Fees

All session last 50 minutes. Mondays to Fridays:

Face to Face = £40

Skype, Zoom, telephone, = £35 (Prepaid sessions via paypal).

Email or Texts = £7 per email / text. Discounted block pre-book £50 for 10 (Prepaid Emails / Texts via paypal).

Home Visits (if within 5 miles) = £60

Weekends an additional £15 on the above face to face options.

Low cost face to face concessions may be available Monday - Friday 10 AM - 4 PM £30 for 50 mins. Call for availability.

I have a special rate for counselling students in training of £25, 10AM-4pm

Cancellations

Please provide at least 48 hours notice of cancellations so I can try to re-book the vacant session with other clients. Cancelling at short notice within 48 hours will incur a 50% fee, although I will try to add 50% of the time to the subsequent sessions, if possible, so you actually lose no value.

Did you know this about mental health?

So if you are suffering from anxiety and depression and also look at the average size of a GP practice in the Christchurch / Bournemouth area (which on average is approx 6,000 patients) there will probably be another 600 people in your GP's practice who unfortunately are suffering the same issues as you.

Did you know this about Counselling? Often not many sessions are needed.

Continuous Professional Development

I am committed to Continuing Professional Development and as part of my CPD I have attended various events, training days and courses:

Resources and Downloads

Anxiety

If you think you suffer a lot from anxiety? Try this assessment and see whether it is mild or more intense:

Anxiety Questionnaire Download

Depression

If you feel you might be depressed? Try this assessment:

Depression Questionnaire Download

Self-esteem Issues

Self-Esteem Assessment Download (Excel)

Click on open and download in the top right hand of the screen.

If you have scored high for self-esteem or identity issues, as indicated in the assessment above, try this Mirror Workbook.

Drop Box Link for Mirror Workbook (Word)

Click on open and download in the top right hand of the screen.

It would be best to talk its use through with me. If you want email counselling, we can use this as a framework. It is copyrighted, so please only for personal use.

Shame

If you feel a lot of shame in your life? Try this assessment (Excel):

Areas of Shame and Reapportionment Download

Click on open and download in the top right hand of the screen.

Relationships

If you feel there may be room for improvement in your relationship, take a look at these questions and give one to your partner which you can use as a basis for gently exploring how it might happen.

Relationship Feelings Questions (Excel)

The Rules of Romance made explicit - so you can see how difficult they are to keep and be happy with oureslves and our partners. We rarely see them written down, but seem to know them. They put a lot of pressure on the relationship.

The Rules of Romance (Word)

Click on open and download in the top right hand of the screen.

If you have am interest in learning more about some key useful psychological / psychotherapeutic concepts, here are some links:

Attentional Bias: https://www.anxiety.org/what-is-attentional-bias

Transference: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/transference

Projective Identification: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/young-people-close/201609/sneaky-devil-projective-identification

Common Thinking Errors (which tend to cause anxiety) :

Mental Filter - only noticing bad? Judging - Evaluating only ‘one’ perspective. Prediction - Believing I know what will happen. Emotional Reasoning - I feel so bad, so it MUST be so bad. Mind Reading - I assume I know what others think. Comparing & Despairing - I'm seeing only good in others & bad in myself. Not appreciating each of us intimately knows ourselves, all the unfortunate mistakes we have ever made ..all our imperfetions. And yet we cannot easily see the same imperfections in others, as we dont usually broadcast these. Catastrophising - I imagine when something goes wrong the worst will happen and it will ruin everything. Critical Self - always putting myself down. Black & White Thinking - believing that something can only be good/bad or right/wrong, with no grey bits inbetween. ‘Should-ing & Ought-ing- Putting undue pressure on myself. Perfectionism - thinking I need to be perfect all the time - Not remembering I only need to be ‘good enough’ & no-one is perfect all the time. Magnification - focusing mainly on the bad, but also minimising the good. Personalising - Am I taking blame or responsibility for things not under my control.

My Hobbies, interests and quotes I like

Life-long learning, holistic thinking, the butterfly effect, transformational change and interconnectivity. "The universe is a continuous web. Touch it at any point and the whole web quivers" - Stanley Kunitz

“We are all connected, to each other, biologically. To the Earth, chemically. To the Universe atomically” – Neil deGrasse Tyson

“Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, for as long as you can.” - John Wesley

"If the only tool in your toolbox is a hammer, then you may be tempted to treat every problem as if were a nail." - Abraham Maslow

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

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